Christel PETITCOLLIN

Christel PETITCOLLIN

Conseil et Formatrice en Communication et Développement Personnel
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My conferences first consist of a theoretical presentation lasting about an hour, expressed simply and often humorously in practical terms, accessible to all and illustrated with every-day life examples that everyone can identify with.

During the second part of the conference, I invite and encourage the public to ask questions, give advice and share their own experiences. Warmth and Friendliness Guaranteed!

Choose the theme of your conference from the list below or tell me about the goals you wish to achieve during your meeting. I will study for and create your "tailor-made" conference.

Contact me so that together we can bring your project to life.

Formulaire de contact :

  • Adress :
    Entrée B Rés.
    L’agriculture
    772, rue de Las Sorbes
    34070 Montpellier France
  • Phone number :
    +33 675 20 33 04
  • Email :
    contact@christelpetitcollin.com

See list of available conferences

COMMUNICATION & DEVELOPPEMENT PERSONNEL :

Je pense trops
Who would have thought that being intelligent could cause suffering and unhappiness? Yet I often see people in my office who complain that they think too much. They tell me their mind never gives them a break, not even at night. They're fed up with the constant doubts, the incessant questions, the acute awareness of things, they're sick and tired of their overdeveloped senses that take in every detail. They'd just like to switch off their minds, but the thing that pains them most is feeling different, misunderstood and hurt by the today's society. They often conclude by saying : "I'm not from this planet !" This conference gives you lessons in mechanics and piloting for these overefficient brains.
Je pense trops
The publication of "Je Pense Trop" (I Think Too Much) was (and still is) an extraordinary adventure : I have never received so many emails about one of my books! You told me about your enthusiasm, your relief and bombarded me with many questions on how to control your emotions, how to develop your self-confidence, how to live comfortably with your overefficiency at work and in your relationships... You extensively commented my book. So, I relied on your feedback, your opinions, your stories and personal tips to answer all these questions. "I Think Too Much" is the basis from which I developed, with your active participation, these new points of reflection to better manage your bubbling brain.
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Many people complain how they are unable to be assertive, to say "no" and all the negative consequences that this has in their private and professional lives : feelings of not being heard or respected, low self-esteem, bitterness, discouragement and even weight problems ! You CAN learn how to say no. How ? First of all, by clarifying things in your mind : the more you define with precision your boundaries, the easier they are to set. Then by conquering your irrational fears of rejection or retaliation... And finally, by learning communication techniques that will allow you to practice calm self-affirmation.
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Emotions are frightening and are not well accepted in our society. For most people, "controlling their emotions" means repressing them and not feeling them at all ! But when we repress and deny our emotions, they take over and negatively control our lives. Violence and Intolerance comes from repressed fears and unidentified frustration. Depression comes from the inability to express Anger. Anxiety comes of too much emotional repression. Emotions do not come into our lives without reason. Every emotion has a function and gives us useful information on our experiences. This conference will teach you how to use your feelings in a positive way and make your emotions powerful allies to drive your life.
Many parents, educators and teachers are full of good will and good intentions. But without knowing it, they have an attitude that discourages, demotivates and destroys the children's self-confidence. Sports coaching has allowed us to define the mental elements crucial to high-level performances. Understanding the components of self-confidence and its mechanisms allows us to restore, preserve and nurture that potential instead of destroying it by mistake. Knowing the mechanisms of self-esteem helps us to learn how to recharge, how to develop the positive aspects and dynamism in ourself and around us, and how to motivate and encourage a team. In short, let's learn to how to wake up the prince asleep inside the frog.
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"The stress of modern life" is a commonly used phrase that implies that modern life and stress are inseparable. That's why, for many people, stress IS inevitable. However, much of this stress is totally artificial and could easily be avoided. And if bad stress can have very harmful effects on our physical and mental health : anxiety, headaches, insomnia, digestive problems, difficulty concentrating, irritability, restlessness, palpitations, back pain, memory problems… , there is also a "good" stress, energizing and even exhilarating, and good for your self-esteem. Finally, there are very simple and practical techniques that exist to organize your life and clear that backlog of waiting tasks. So, stressed and overbooked or relaxed and efficient ? At the end of this conference, you'll be able to take your pick.
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Depending on the education we received as children and the experiences we've had in our life, each of us creates a personal vision of life and of ourselves. This overall idea will influence our daily actions to the point of locking us up in a belief system, called a life script. For some, life is a constant struggle and they will unconsciously create any opportunity to fight. For others, less common, life is simple and fun, full of joy, success and sharing. Thus, winning or losing scripts are created. This conference provides insights on how to escape your mind's childhood programming and helps you get your life back on the tracks of a winner life script.
For many people, the true love means passionate love. Love is suffering from the other person's absence, from jealousy, from the fear of losing them. They break up, then get back together. They go through a constant rollercoaster of emotions, switching between exaltation and anxiety. Even if they go through relationship hell, some people are afraid of getting bored in healthy, peaceful relationships. This is the typical behaviour of emotional co-dependency. Emotional codependency makes you go through life relying on each other as a crutch. Breaking free from the illusion of symbiosis and developing your own emotional autonomy will enable you to become stronger, to advance quicker, and more easily, and rather than relying on the other person, you'll move forward together, hand in hand.
In recent years, we've began to publicly speak out about serious debt problems. But talking about money is still difficult, embarrassing or shameful in many situations. Even more taboo than sex, money secretly generates its own neuroses and addiction phenomena. Compulsive overspending is the neighbor of bulimia.
Violence is regrettably a theme that is still relevant today. Everyone talks about it, everybody complains, but no-one feels directly targeted. The violent one is always the other, because when it comes to our own violence, it seems clearly justified. What are the mechanisms of violence ? What are its roots ? How does one prevent or defuse the spiral of aggression ? How can we protect our children from it ? These are questions that everyone is asking and to which there ARE answers. Violence has its triggers, its challenges, it's obvious and hidden mechanisms. Understanding how it works, realising that violence is never an answer or a solution but always a destructive spiral and long term escalation, will allow everyone to act at his own level to reverse the trend.
We all agree that respect in our interpersonal relationships is going down in value. Rudeness, incivility, individualism, lack of consideration, contempt, aggressiveness, insults and violence are the components of this lack of respect. Why do we feel this growing disrespect ? It's because the definition of respect is increasingly unclear and subjective. This disrespect we feel has several origins: the objectification of living beings, growing personal frustration, thoughtlessness and lack of references. Fortunately, there ARE solutions !

EDUCATION

Every parent, in their own way, wants to be a "good parent" and strives with all their heart to help their child reach their full potential. But despite this obvious good will, reality comes knocking sooner or later and destroys this dream of perfection and puts in check all those educational theories. Guilt and despondency are guaranteed. The rules of good communication with your child include essential keys that you need to know to raise a child. This conference proposes tangible ways to achieve the delicate balance between love and firmness, to find inside yourself clear answers to your questions and also to enable you to stay connected to the long-term vision of your parenting mission. After all, what matters most, beyond their current well-being, is the future of your children.
Being a parent can be likened to the art of being a gardener. Just like you need fertile soil, fresh water and clean air, certain ingredients are essential to help a child gain self-confidence, to help him want to grow, become independent and to allow him, in the long term, to develop his full potential. This metaphorical way of presenting a child's needs helps to remind you of the state of mind in which you must place yourself when being a parent. At the end of the conference, you will have tangible ways to respond positively your child's needs.
In the early years of his life, the child shapes his personality. Six facets appear and take place one after the other. These facets will remain the basis of his entire mental structure. The quality of the synergy between these six facets will determine the positive development of his whole personality. This conference will help you understand when and how these six facets appear, what they're for and how to promote their development to optimize their function. That way, parents will have effective tools to help their child grow and get the self discipline he needs to become an independent and peaceful adult.
The discoveries in psychology have transformed our ideas about education. More and more parents are aware of the impact their attitude has on the future of their child. They try to do their best to give them a positive future. But engaging their child in fierce competition at school and overbooking their schedule with additional activities may have the opposite effect than the one hoped for. Anxiety, burnout, and depression are more and more common in our children today because a child is not a "small adult". The most helpful attitude you can have for your children is to find a balance between kindness and firmness, protection and empowerment, and above all remind yourself every day that a child is a child.
In the old days, abusing the credulity of children, adults lied to them without qualms. Then one day, Françoise Dolto said, "We must tell our children the truth." What she actually meant was : we must talk to our children, they understand everything and an unspoken truth is more worrying than a few well placed words in a delicate situation. But when it comes to talking to children about important issues or worse, serious ones, adults often still feel extremely awkward and uncomfortable. They give their child confusing information, and convey their own personal discomfort. Their explanations are too long and too complicated for the mental age of their child. So what should we tell our children? How should we tell them? And are there still things that need to be kept secret, and why?
Entangled in their worst fears (drugs, suicide and runaways), confused by the emotional outbursts of their teenager and overwhelmed by the generation gap between them, parents often lose in their child's adolescence, the necessary points of reference to reign in their teenagers. Moreover, communicating with teenagers is a very delicate task. This conference will help you understand the reasons behind fights so you can prevent them. You'll learn how to listen to young people and diversify your topics of discussion. You'll also learn how to give them confidence in themselves and in their future and how to help them get through this transition period safely. Many issues will be discussed and clarified during this conference.
Today's youth no longer grows up under the same conditions previous generations did. There's a long-lasting economic crisis and television sets in every home. The values conveyed by our society have changed over the last thirty years. That's why many adults take a line that is in total opposition to the real life experience and mentality of young people today. Many parents, teachers and educators do not know what to say or what to do to motivate adolescents. We need to understand that teenagers today have to go through their teenage angst in a world in crisis itself. This conference offers tangible ways to reinvent your role as coach, guide or mentor because, more than ever, young people need us to give them motivation and faith in their own future.
What skills do I need to develop to be a "good" parent ? All parents at one point or another have asked themselves this question, but their answer is often a perfectionistic view of their role and a lot of guilt about not being good enough. However, if there ARE skills you can develop, they're much simpler than people imagine. For example, amongst other things, you just need to stop "psychologizing" and use some basic common sense, remember your long-term parenting vision, develop some flexibility and creativity, regain a bit of light-heartedness and your sense of humor so you can take a step back and find innovative solutions to your family issues before they take root. And most of all, stop trying to be perfect!
Today's parents, and especially mothers, go through their parenting incredibly guilt-ridden. This guilt is not only uncomfortable for them but also and above all harmful to a good relationship with their children because a parent's guilt is real educational poison. Guilt distorts all points of reference and destroys basic objectivity. Boundaries become inconsistent and random because they're directly linked to the level of guilt felt in the heat of the moment. Education becomes disjointed and illogical. This lecture will help you take back your right to imperfection, to educational mistakes and recover some common sense so you can act efficiently.
The different social revolutions since the French Revolution have gradually undermined the Patriarchy and freed women from her oppressed position. On the plus side : women can be free and independent. On the minus side : mothers are at great risk of poverty and isolation. The conditions in which we become mothers today have changed : mothers over 40, single mothers, working mothers... But the myth of the bad mother is still out there. Mothers feel guilty and are stuck in a double bind, either considered unworthy or overprotective. They struggle to ensure their protective function towards their children. But thankfully, mothers today also show more affection to their children.
How do you position yourself ? What topics should you accept to discuss ? What should parents allow ? What should be forbidden, why and how ? When should you discipline them and how ? These are questions that every parent asks themselves at every age of their child. This conference gives you concrete ways to clarify your areas of doubt and guilt and to precisely define what is acceptable and what isn't. There are also simple ways to calmly assert yourself, so that setting boundaries no longer means scolding.

FAMILLE

The images of the "apron and jam" Grandma and the "fishing and gardening" Grandpa have done their time and need to be stored in our "nostalgia" album . Today, if you're fifty or sixty years old, you're no longer an "old person" like before. Neither surrogate parents nor childminders, today's grandparents must find their place as they have an important part to play in their grandchildren's life. Guardians of their transgenerational family history, they have roots, values and stability to pass on. And as they are not directly involved in the daily education of their grandchildren, they can also offer invaluable availability, patience and listening.
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From the creation of a young couple to the birth of their grandchildren, the family changes over the years. Families go through stages, crises, instability-causing upheavals, family conflicts and uncertainty. For most people, the family is a safe bet, a safe haven. But whilst dreaming of a loving and united family, many people go through tension, fighting and a lot of frustration. What are the causes of family dysfunction? This conference offers keys and insights so that from these turbulent times each person can learn to retake their rightful place in the family.
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Today, one couple out of three divorces. Behind this sociological reality, divorce remains a personal drama, seen as a failure, with feelings of shame, guilt, anger, and even hate. How do you protect your children during this storm ? How do you heal from this narcissistic wound and mourn the relationship ? And when you feel the desire to build a new home, how do you recreate a family and find balance with all this new data ? To built a successful reconstituted family, there are precautions to take and pitfalls to avoid. This is what I propose to explore during this conference.

INFORMATION

Hypnosis is a badly known therapeutic tool that is still seen as deeply disturbing and unsettling. For most people, being hypnotized means sleeping and obeying outside orders, basically, "losing their self-control." But hypnosis is a natural phenomenon that we experience every day without even realising it. Dr. Milton H. Erickson, an internationally renown american psychotherapist, reinvented hypnosis. Doctor Erickson believed that the unconscious mind is a positive force, that has its own logic and its own language. Hypnosis is the art of speaking directly to the unconscious mind in order to have access to its vast repertoire of knowledge and learning. So, how does hypnosis really work ? Why does it work ? And how can it be useful ?
Above all, NLP is a positive philosophy of life based on the belief that every human being is unique and has in himself all the resources necessary for his development. Born from the careful observation and analysis of the skills of great communicators, NLP is also a set of simple, practical and effective tools to help you establish high quality relationships and facilitate the changes necessary to your personal development. NLP is meant for people whose job is primarily based on communication : businessmen, executives, doctors, social workers, teachers... and for anyone interested in their own development and who wish to improve their personal and professional relationships.
«In all frogs sleep a prince. There's no need to kill the frog. Simply wake up the prince. » This is a quote by Dr. Eric Berne, founder of the method, and it sums up the resolutely positive and practical spirit of Transactional Analysis. Transactional Analysis is a simple and effective way to better perceive the different facets of someone's personality and gain more insight on human exchanges.Transactional Analysis will explore : The Ego States : A study of the different facets of a personality and their functions.Transactions : An analysis of human exchanges.Games : An analysis of the repetitive relationships patterns that lead to negative feelings.Life Scripts : An analysis of our overall life script, created and reinforced since early childhood that predetermines our behaviour today.

MANIPULATION MENTALE

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Every time that you experience a negative, discouraging and frustrating relationship, it's safe to say that you're unconsciously involved in an unhealthy drama triangle. You will find that the protagonists of your situation fits one of the following descriptions :The Victim : Pure and innocent, passive and powerless, whining and pitiful but strangely blundering and often infuriating.The Persecutor : Critical and demeaning, hurtful and cruel, threatening and even violent, and mostly overdosing on frustration that he tries to take out on... an innocent victim, of course.The Rescuer : Kind and generous, strong and selfless, patronizing and infantilizing, and very good at making you feel guilty. His motto is : "After all I've done for you !".Good news : There ARE solutions to get out this game : just come and listen to this conference !
Harassment is a phenomenon that's still largely misunderstood and underestimated. It's difficult to detect because it's an insidious and gradual process. The therapist and family entourage watches in frightened indifference, bordering on complacency. Harassment is a psychic destruction mechanism, close to predation. The most surprising thing in the victim's ordeal is how similar their stories seem to be. The procedure is strangely standard. What are the signs of emotional abuse? What impact does it have on the victim? What are the hidden costs for businesses? How do you avoid it, protect yourself, heal from it, and rebuild yourself ? This conference will answer all of these questions.
Echapper au manipulateur
Is there anyone out there who can honestly say they've never been manipulated ? Since the beginning of time, we've been surrounded by manipulative people. Their goal remains the same throughout the ages : to get what they want at our expense. Their techniques, simple and sophisticated at the same time, are amazingly effective. Entangling us in our own weaknesses, they transform us into puppets in the blink of an eye. The feeling of having been manipulated is a deeply unpleasant one. The guilt of having been fooled adds to the confusion of not understanding how it happened and to the fear that it could happen again. And thus, all the factors are in place so that you are even more easily manipulated next time. This conference provides you with the keys you need to understand and thwart manipulation.
Divorcer d'un manipulateur
Although manipulative people have existed since the dawn of time, I'm always surprised to see how badly known these sinister individuals remain today. They're unfamiliar to the general public, to institutions, doctors, psychologists and experts, and worse still, unfamiliar to their victims, who only wake up when they're completely trapped. This conference is therefore :- An Ariadne's Thread to help victims escape their mental and legal labyrinth without being destroyed by their own personal Minotaur- A Keyhole to allow legal bodies and social services to have access to what is happening behind their back- An Alarm to wake up a society manipulated and brainwashed by a few hateful and destructive individuals.
Enfant de manipulateur
When someone is manipulative, that person is manipulative with everyone : his family, his spouse, his neighbors, his colleagues, the police, the courts... So, why on earth would he not be manipulative with his own children ? Although he constantly boasts of being a good parent, the manipulative parent is an imposter. He will never develop the parenting skills necessary for the child to develop properly : unconditional love, protection, a safe environment, listening and permissions. At most, the manipulative parent will be from time to time either seductive or corruptive, but the rest of the time he will be true to form : critical, humiliating, abusive and destructive. Worse still : the denial of the specific nature of childhood is spreading throughout our society like wildfire.What are the risks? What are the consequences for these manipulated children ? What can the other parent do to limit the damage, whilst waiting for a collective awakening ?
Christel Petitcollin - Conférence paris
Christel Petitcollin - Conférence paris
Christel Petitcollin - Conférence paris